Our Married Life

The deadline has passed, but it’s still not too late. Please do send them in. I got declines from people that I least expected it from. I hope they have a good reasoning. It makes me wonder, in the future, should I list these people as a priority? Should I attend their wedding if I was ever invited? It was more surprising than upsetting, so I guess I should get over it.

I’ve only got 2 weeks to go. MY GOODNESS! It’s quickly approaching. When we were first discussing dates, we were talking about Spring 2006, but I thought that was too fast. I feel like I’ve been planning forever. I mean I bought my dress a whole year ago! Speaking of dresses, I need to pick it up from the cleaners tomorrow. I hope it’s not damaged in any way, I would totally panic!

We have a couple’s shower this weekend, which also happens to be my birthday. We still need to bring some of the gifts we got from the last shower when we return.

The other night I worked on programs. I think it’s done and I just need to get it to the printers. I don’t know really know what to do with it. I guess I’m just going to keep them simple since they end up on the floors anyway.

Erin will be doing our makeup beginning at 10:30 on Saturday. I think I may have breakfast catered in for us girls, while Brian is watching the game somewhere. I do plan on getting pictures taken beforehand either in the hotel lobby we’re staying or someplace nice. And yes, Brian will be there. I’d rather have a moment with him before the ceremony than none at all because I would be too nervous about the attention during the ceremony. Plus, I don’t want to spend all day posing for pictures whereas we can mingle around.

I just realized we have 23 days to go. I have to get my dress to the cleaners asap to be cleaned and pressed. We have to go pick up our marriage license. I have to take my dad in to get fitted. We need to shop for our honeymoon. I have to make the programs which I DO NOT WANT TO DO… I think I’m starting to freak out a bit.

Since I bought all these pillar candles for the fireplace in the ceremony and since we won’t getting married in that room, I’ve decided to put those candles into good use. I thought about using some of their mirror centerpieces and cluster some of those candles on top of that between each couple’s seating on the head table. So about 4 candles of different sizes every two chairs. Then I’ll use the votive candles/holders that I bought at Garden Ridge and will line it up at the front edge of the table. Essentially there’ll be lots of candle lights covering the head table. We’ll also sprinkle rose petals all around it to add some color. Whatcha think?

As for the guest tables themselves, the country club will be providing 3 votives per table. We’ll be using their mirror tiles and with the vases I bought I will fill them with orange or fushia colored rocks which I’ve also bought and a couple stems of gerber daisies or roses. There will also be rose petals sprinkled around each table. Although it may problematic since we’ll have at least 20 tables and I only have 15 vases. I may alternate between that and using some of their bubble bowls. Hmmm.

As for the cake tables, we’ll sprinkle more rose petals, we’ll have the I Do letters and maybe some more votives.

We stopped by Brookhaven today to make a payment and do some preplanning. We sorta finalized the menu (although that can change at any point) and talked about the layout, choosed the colors of the tablecloth etc.

So here’s the rundown:
Table – White table cloth with white overlay and teal napkins (to match bridesmaids dresses)
Chairs – Captains chairs (the fancy kind with arms) so no need for chair covers YAY!
Tables will be round with 8 settings.
There will be a head table seating 10 of us.
She also let us use the other half for the ceremony since there won’t be an event that day. Soooo, the invitations say garden terrace room – but it’s not like it matters since the whole dang thing is all in one building/room anyway. This is great because once the ceremony is over, we can use it as the dance floor! Now we don’t have to use that small space in the corner as the dance floor. Instead the garden-terrace room will be used as the buffet area.

I wish we took pictures or had pictures. DANGIT!

She will also setup the tiny room by the bar for kiddies. She’ll put a tv in there and all we have to supply are the movies to entertain any children.

As for the cake table, we’ll have two, one for each cake. There will be a silk ruffle overlay on each one, so it’ll be dressed up all pretty.

Ok so here’s the menu – I’ve posted one before, but it’s changed a bit:

Cocktail hour:
Hot artichoke dip with pita chips
Fruit and Cheese Display
Vegetable crudite and ranch dip

Dinner Buffet:
Pecan crusted trout with butter sauce
Flat iron steak with cabernet demi
Chicken Saltimbocca roulades
Leaf salad and two composed salads
Dinner rolls
Green Beans
Lemon Pepper Broccoli
Roasted new potatoes
Garlic whipped potatoes
water, iced tea, coffee, punch

Dessert:
wedding cake
deluxe coffee station

Right now we’re ordering one keg (Bud Light) and having a limited open bar, but we may have to get another keg (each keg holds 100 cups I think, I dunno)

We’ll have to finalize everything a couple weeks beforehand, so please return the RSVP cards, because we want everyone to have a good time and don’t want to run out of food!

I hope no one’s a vegetarian because they’ll be eating sides only :-/

So it begins, counting down the days till I get all the RSVP back. So far I got 16 back. SIXTEEN. We sent out 120 invitations and only got 16 back. Granted some of those are family and we didn’t include the cards because we know they’ll be coming, but gee, those cards are in there for a good reason. We want to know how much to expect so we have enough food and cake and such.

Assuming that all of Brian’s aunts and uncles are coming, we have 80 confirmed. And assuming that the people who have not RSVPed are all going to come, we’ll be expecting over 200 people. I’d love to have 200 people at our wedding, I’d just like to know now. I’m guessing 75% of those missing rsvp’s may accept, which will put us a little over our budgeted 150. We’ll see.

If I had unlimited budget, I would do exactly how I envisioned it. The country club would be decked out in orange and fuschia, it would be soooo pretty! I’ve seen all these profiles with similar themes, and I can just imagine how our wedding would compare. I am a complete control freak when it comes to how I want things output. It’s driving me crazy knowing that I can’t spend all day decorating the room.

I guess in the end though, as long as everyone is having fun that’s all that matters. So neither one of my bridesmaids are able to help me on the day of my bridals. I’m sorta freaking out. I can always drag my mom along, but I know how she’s going to act. She’ll want to go home early and would complain about how much I’m spending the entire time!

So I’ve got to find someone else to help me. I asked a couple other friends, we’ll see.

Also, I got 50 dollars from expedia for screwing up our hotel reservations from this past weekend, so I’ll using that to book our hotel room the night before the wedding. I’ll be expecting a good ole time that night with some girlfriends. ;-)

Seriously, why do I even bother? I found this website . These three colors work PERFECTLY with my color scheme. But of course it’s an even bigger investment than my invitations. I should just go home and recut those leftover tissue paper and turn those into scrolls. But I did find these that may be easy to replicate (pictured). I just need to find some rafia strings.

We got our RINGS! I love my wedding band, it’s just the right amount of bling, because you know how we Asians like our bling. Hehe. I’ll post picture later.

We also got some RSVP’s back. Out of the 7 responses, 4 declined and 3 accepted. Now I just need to give my mom her set of invitations. EEK, I hope it’s not too late.

We also got some more checks in the mail. Wedding planning has gotten more fun :-D

Edit: Click here for a picture of the rings