Our Married Life

Well the longer I wait to update this, the less I remember. And to think I’d remember every moment on my wedding day.

So Erin got done with Brian’s mom. Next was Julie. We didn’t do much, I ordered a sandwich from Jason’s Deli since I knew I wasn’t going to be building much of an appetite, so we all grazed on that. Kate came in at around noon. I went off to the main club house to check on things and Sheri was kind enough to put some other stuff together after everyone else helped out with the centerpieces. The centerpieces turned out quite nicely considering it was just a hodgepodge of inspiration I got from pictures. It was simple but very cute. Emma, Jacob and I worked on the head table. They were so cute and helpful. Luckily I got some pictures of it with our camera. I headed back to the locker room and asked Brian’s mom to go back to the clubhouse to make her rounds and remind Sheri some stuff. Later on, some snooty country club lady came into the locker room, saw Tony and mumbled some comment about “when did they let men into the locker room?” I didn’t actually hear this, but Tony did and mentioned it to me. He said, “I bet you ten bucks that lady is going to get me kicked out.” I didn’t think much about it, but sure enough right when Erin was supposed to work on me, the manager came in and asked him to leave. ACK. I was so pissed off. I tried to find the lady, but she was no where to be found. So I marched over to Sheri, but she was with another bride. I finally talked to the co-coordinator and told her, and she said she’ll take care of it. About 20 minutes later, Sheri marched in and talked to the manager. They said he could come back in, as long as he leaves if any country club guests are in there.

So anyway, once we were done, we were going to take formal pictures, but I don’t know what happened or what we decided instead. I guess the point was I was going to hide out in the children’s room while Tony takes formal pictures of him and his guys. During this time, my neices kept coming in and I could see guests starting to arrive. I got kinda frustrated since the whole point of hiding out was that people can’t see me, but of course people kept coming in and out. What a stupid tradition that is (the hiding out part). So they finally moved me to the managers office. It was nice and cool in there and so quiet. I was anxious to get started and finally they called us out there.

I could hear the Richmond’s violin. He started playing Canon in D and that’s when I started choking up. My thought was, I want to run up the aisle, but knew I couldn’t because my dad is slow. So finally when the Wedding Chorus started, it was time. I finally saw Brian for the first time that day after exchanging brief phone calls and text messages. I honestly did not see anyone else. It was all a blur. We said our vows, exchanged rings, I cried (needed a hanky!) and Brian wouldn’t stop talking. He kept telling me not to be sad, but I wasn’t sad, just emotional.

It was a quick ceremony, I didn’t time it but it was nice and short and traditional. The one thing I remembered was that the air conditioner kicked in, so I hope everyone was able to hear. Lou Whitworth did a great job officiating. EDIT: Yung also did a great job with the reading. Thanks for filling in with such short notice.

We marched back and went and hid in the side hallway while the guests left. We skipped the receiving line since we were going to do rounds during the reception. After the guests cleared the room, we took some formal family pictures (which I still need to upload). I hate formal pictures, but I guess we have to do them for the family. After that, the wedding party went out to the golf course to take some photos. This was the best part, as it was truly fun. Some funny moments were all 8 of us including robert piling into the golf cart. Brian freaking out because he thought we were going to break the thing. Tony taking some shots of us running and jumping and one of the girls dresses flying up (we deleted that one!) Then Sheri came out to fetch us since it was time to go back in and start dinner. The one thing I was disappointed about is that we never took formal shots with myself and the bridesmaids. I guess we forgot…

The DJ made his announcements, and Harlan said his prayers. This is when Brian and both noticed people missing. AHEM, don’t friggin send an RSVP card and not show. There are some that had a good reason and we hope that everything is ok. But some that just plain didn’t show or didn’t call or didn’t email to let us know afterwards. I think we had about 30 people not show. That’s quite a bit in terms of dollars. I didn’t really care about wasting the food at the point, I was just upset. It was the one thing that ruined both our nights. I actually wanted to cry. Of course most of those people were from my guest list and some of them were family that lived 20 minutes away. Whatever. My mom said it doesn’t matter at this point, if they decide to be that way, then there’s no reason to care about them. Which I don’t anymore. And the point is the people that really mattered and really cared were there, and for that we thank you.

Dinner was good, I ate a little. I had a piece of steak (undercooked by the way) and a piece of chicken. That was it. I guess my appetite was still not there. I wish I could have enjoyed that part. People said the food was good, I hope so. I didn’t even get to drink at my own wedding, I had one sip of a cocktail and a couples sip of the champagne! Oh well. We were going to do the toast a bit later, but since I was done with dinner we went ahead and moved that up. Kate, Matt, and Jassin all did a wonderful job. Kate even got emotional.

Anyway, after the toasts, we cut our cakes. Mmm cake, we’re still eating it today. Then we had our first dance to You and Me by Lifehouse. This was one of the moments I’ll remember. It was super sweet. At first we didn’t suspect many people dancing, but the DJ did a good job of keeping at least some people on the dance floor all night. We did our rounds. Brian and I snuck outside to take some more pictures. Then my old HS friends came out and we took some pictures with them. By then it was about 9:30 and people were starting to leave. Brian and I were both ready to go as well. I was super tired and just wanted some sleep. We went back inside, danced our last dance. Talked to some people. And finally made our way out the door by around 10:30 or so in the freshly shoe polished car. Thanks Matt and Jassin. Brian still needs to clean some of it off. With any luck he’ll probably get it all off by our first anniversary.

We drove out to the Hilton Anatole. Checked into our room, got our champagne, which Brian was a wuss about opening the bottle.

The next morning we had appointments for massages. We got breakfast for the room, checked out the awesome parlor next door and had our yummy breakfast of scrambled eggs, toast, hashbrowns, OJ and coffee (this was the first real food I enjoyed all weekend). I had to rush since my appt was first. They only had one masseuse so they couldn’t get us both at the same time. But I enjoyed it. Brian came down after I was done. We checked out at noon, stopped by my parents house to get some gifts from them. Then left to go pick up Wendy’s for lunch. Brian’s parents came over with some gifts which we opened. Then we both went and got our haircuts and ran some quick errands before heading back to Brian’s parents hotel to get the rest of the gifts and stuff. The flowers were still in good shape. We got our leftover cake. Came home, had dinner, packed for our honeymoon and went to bed. We had to be up at 3am on Monday to get to the airport. I’m glad we left on Monday instead of Sunday morning, we needed the extra day to take care of stuff. Reesey went home to New Braunfels, and we missed her during our honeymoon. More recaps about the honeymoon later…